Fragile, tender and as delicate as the first bloom in the middle of April.
Yet, passionate, full of all the fire in a single burning flame.
Constantly moving, growing, bleeding and hoping.
It will never be the same tomorrow as it is today, and it knows of the miles traveled yesterday. It forgives, it endures…and above all it lives and breathes.
Your heart is a precious commodity. It belongs to you –and solely you.
There will be moments that come your way, people who enter your life, and you my feel enticed to give this treasure away, but do so only with caution. You must decide if someone is worth sacrificing, or risking this beautiful element of you.
In fact, your heart is…at the heart of who you are. It holds everything near and dear to you –memories from the past, hopes for the future. It captures your best times, it feels the full force of your bad experiences. It contains your fears, and it speaks when you should feel afraid. It helps tell the butterflies when to start flying in your stomach, and it begs your head to just let you feel…and stop thinking, analyzing so much.
Your heart defines who you are, and allowing someone to enter this private zone –or even more intimately, offering them to hold a piece of it in their hands –is absolutely petrifying.
Part of falling in love, and thus implementing your heart into the swing of a relationship, or courtship is being vulnerable. And vulnerability, like other scary things in life –takes courage and involves risk.
This elusive vulnerability is dangerous territory to tread on and the ice can break at any moment –because being vulnerable allows strings at the heart to be pulled away from their secure location deep inside you…and permits them to attach to someone else.
And that someone else could and could not handle them with care.
Jane Collingwood from PsychCentral.com spoke about trust and vulnerability in relationships, and concluded that relationships require a level of vulnerability, attachment and commitment to prosper over long periods.
She stated, “This expression of love puts into practice the key elements of a secure partnership: consistency, attunement to the other, and availability when needed.”
While Collingwood makes perfect sense and sounds very logical –love, or the process of falling into the realm love isn’t consistent, there isn’t always a promise of commitment, or dependence.
That’s why being vulnerable, is in fact, so terrifying.
However ridiculously petrified a woman might be when spending quality time, endless dates, nights of laughter and romance –she must allow herself to be vulnerable with her heart.
She shouldn’t give it away, put it up for rent, or present it on a shiny platter, but she should take a chance allowing it to feel.
Feel the tides of a relationship –the way you felt when he first kissed you, the way he surprised you for no reason, or showed you how he thought of you at an unexpected moment.
And if it goes wrong and the ropes you threw out into the ocean of possibility were somehow tangled by the uncertain waves that love unquestionably presents –those ropes will come back to you, and you will have learned.
And you will feel that lesson. It may be bittersweet, confusing to the extreme, and make you demand the universe a reason why, but you will feel the immensity of that lesson. Your heart will speak for you.
The same heart that allowed itself to be vulnerable, to take an opportunity and maybe, or maybe not fall in love –and be caught, will beat for you.
It will feel a small break, a crack, a tear and it will beat faster and faster, and it may hurt to feel that pounding. But the constant drum is a healing method, a way of letting you know that you can be vulnerable again. You can take another chance…because no matter the course, the pattern of the changing tides, the heart can love again.
After all, it’s at the heart of you. And you, radiant, vibrant woman, forgive. You endure, and more than anything, you live, and you take that big breath in –knowing one day, being vulnerable won’t be so daunting for you…or your heart.http://chickspeak.com/blog/2009/04/03/moving-on-the-heart-of-relationships/
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