New Relationship Jitters, Enjoy the Butterflies

Butterflies: delicate creatures, you cannot hold in your hand and surprise you with their presence. They don’t just habituate in nature, but in the stomachs of those lucky individuals in new relationships.

Wikipedia defines “butterflies in the stomach” as a medical condition that is induced by epinephrine, or adrenaline, when one is nervous. While I’m not sure if I would consider “warm fuzzies” in the stomach a medical condition, I do recognize new relationship jitters. A census conducted by the New York Times stated the 51 percent of all women live without a spouse. However, just because over half of the female population chooses to be single or has just not found that special someone, when they do, most women report on feeling a little queasy about the whole idea of a relationship.

Being a single, successful, sassy and sophisticated lady is an exhilarating feeling.

You’re climbing the career ladder by yourself, choosing when you want to go out for martinis with your best girls, going to bed when you please, and making weekend plans, all without consideration of what anyone else thinks.

It’s exciting to feel independent and make choices without consulting someone else first.

Nevertheless, it’s possibly a little more thrilling to know that someone else is part of the equation and is competing with everything else in your life for your time and attention.

And perhaps, it’s a little scary too.

Relationships take you by surprise, much like a butterfly’s presence- you never expect when they’ll come about, and when they do- they distract you, and steal your concentration from what you’re life used to be.

It’s easy to get used to the parade of jerks that many women fall subject to. Believing that something you can trust and fall into is out there- and ready to fall with you- is frightening. It almost seems too good to be true.

But, just because Mr. I Don’t Want To Commit, Mr. I Only Want To Sleep With You, Mr. I’ve Never Taken a Shower in my Life, and Mr. Sleazy Creepy Pants always seem to give a bad rep to the male population as a whole- there are some guys- that are rare and far between that want more from you than your body- and know how to make you smile from ear-to-ear.

Once you find Mr. This Could Be Something Special- it’s natural to feel a little uneasy.

It’s almost an indescribable feeling of excitement, anticipation, curiosity and fear.

Excited for a new journey with someone who is promising, anticipation for what’s to come next, curiosity of what they’re like, of how you work together, of where it’ll go, and fear of falling too hard, too quick, and that you won’t be able to break your walls down to let them in. Or just afraid that if you hold on too tight- they may just escape from you. Just like the butterfly.

And although, you may just want to relax and ignore the butterflies- it’s better to allow yourself to feel them.

You should permit yourself to be distracted by the beauty that’s suddenly dancing, fluttering around you. And you ought to allow yourself to be a little scared, a little anticipant- it’s all part of enjoying bright beginnings that possibly could lead to your happy ending.

You can never anticipate the arrival of a butterfly; they are constantly moving, traveling from one place to another, and only rarely do they land to rest for a moment.

Gently, the fly around you, teasing you with their beauty and tempting you to reach out and touch them. If only for a moment, to feel their soft texture and capture their splendor inside your hands.

Yet, you do not want to confine a butterfly for very long in fear that somehow, in someway, it will be harmed and escape from you before you have chance to hold it close.

The butterfly may escape from you and it may not stick around for very long- but it’s not that often that something mysterious and beautiful comes to rest on your shoulder for a while.

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